On my podcast, Creating Light with Kelsey, I conducted my very first interview! I decided to kick start this process by interviewing one of my best friends, Crystal! We talk about how our friendship started and some funny memories. Reflecting on how we have officially been friends for 10 years. Then we get into how she helped teach me what unconditional love truly looks like.
You can listen to the episode, here. 😊
I will reveal one of the funny memories that was shared, which was the moment we became best friends! We met on a competitive cheerleading team our senior year of high school. One weekend our team was traveling 8 hours to compete at Super Nationals. I discovered that Crystal was planning on doing the drive by herself, and going to get her own hotel room (she was 17). I invited her to come with me and my parents.
We had already been getting along at practice, but this was the first time we had spent this much time together. Growing up, if you have ever traveled for sports you know it is almost always a fun time. Me and Crystal were definitely the annoying teenagers in the hotel!
Me and Crystal went exploring one of the nights there. We discovered the entrance to get onto the roof. It was chained off, but with Crystal’s convincing argument, we broke in, and climbed on top of the roof. I thought I was soooo cool for being a rebel and going against the rules. For Crystal, this type of behavior was a normal thing.
We were on the roof, playing in the snow for so long we eventually had to pee. We weren’t done hanging out though, but yet, getting off the roof to find a bathroom, to then get back on the roof would have been too much work.
We decided to pee on the roof.
We thought it was the funniest thing! Thus, started a ripple effect of funny pee stories, which you can listen to a couple more on the podcast episode. It was within that moment we became best friends! Being goofy and just living life is what really connected us.
Me and Crystal have witnessed each other be in various walks of life these past 10 years. She has loved me, without judgement, through it all. I have loved her through it all too, but I definitely projected shame and judgment.
Because of her constant acceptance she unknowingly has helped teach me what unconditional love is.
Basically, my entire life revolved around expectations. If those expectations were not met then I was not happy. I also was not willing to fully give over my love. My love was given under certain conditions. This is what I was taught through my environment growing up.
The funny thing is, that Crystal did not give a shit. She did not take my expectations of her to heart. Which neutralized the shame that was present. As I have been on my own healing journey, this was one of the contributing factors that helped me let go of expectations. To love people for who they are, and for where they are at.
Crystal was my lesson of learning how to love someone unconditionally because she loved me unconditionally. With my fairly recent awareness of this concept, our friendship just continues to grow. I am so grateful to have her as a friend and I love living life with her. You can listen to the full interview on my podcast, in episode 30.
When we see the light in ourselves, we create light in others.