The person that just lost their job? Yup. The person that will be having a baby soon? Yup. The person thriving in their business? Yup. No matter the situation, it is happening for our highest good. Now, I realize I’ll have some skeptics out there, ask me how I know, but it’s true.
And, yes, this mindset is even including our trauma. I have read countless articles involving studies of sexual abuse survivors who have reported that they would not change their trauma. This is because they are proud of who they are now. That they would not be the person they are today if it weren’t for the trauma, and they have fought to be this person.
Survivors within these studies said because of their trauma they were able to gain compassion, build resilience, explore forgiveness, become aware of their needs, and learn to fully love themselves. As a survivor myself, I can relate to the growth my trauma has gifted me, and I also would not change it.
Although, I would not change my trauma, my skepticism of the statement, you are exactly where you are meant to be, stems from the fact that I have experienced severe trauma. There is definitely a part of me that thinks, “How the fuck is this benefiting anybody?!”
How can my ultimate lows actually be for my highest good?
That is the million-dollar question, and honestly, it looks different for everybody. For me, I understand now that my strength came from surviving. I kept building on that strength by choosing to live, choosing to feel my pain, which then lead to me healing. I have directly experienced just how shitty life can be through these lows.
By feeling the lows, I realized I did not want this to be a constant in my life. It gave me the drive to heal because through the process of healing I was also building a great life for myself. In those low moments, I was EXACTLY where I needed to be.
So, it may feel like there is no value in the shit show, but there is. It is creating a precious piece of who you are.
Each moment we are provided with lessons. Once we learn the lessons, we are able to up-level our life. I have noticed that the most valuable lessons of life are often in the challenges. This is why at all times we are exactly where we are meant to be.
Even with this awareness, at times it is difficult for me to discover what the present moment is teaching. I can easily get caught up in the desire of trying to escape the hard times. Which puts me in danger of not being present, unconsciously moving through life, and NOT learning the fucking lesson that moment has to offer. Which leaves a high probability of me repeating patterns or staying stuck in a cycle, then later on asking myself, “Why does this keep happening?”
I am learning that if I do not take the time to learn the lesson it will follow me to the next phase of life.
Take some time today to appreciate where you are at in life, right now. What is the gift of this present moment? Is this where you want to be? If not, what is this phase trying to teach you? Create some art around these questions to further process them if you want! Just know that you are exactly where you are meant to be, or you wouldn’t be here.
When we see the light in ourselves, we create light in others.